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Reading Material

Reading Material

“Where grief is still very fresh, the most important resolution made may be the dedication to survive each day." – Bruce H. Conley

It may be difficult for you to imagine how you will get through each day. The pain you are feeling may seem unbearable at times. While each person experiences grief differently, try to remember that others have learned to live with their loss and in time, you will too.

We hope that you find these materials helpful as you take one day at a time.

Click the links below to download PDF versions of the listed resources:

Signs and Symptoms of Grief (PDF)

Tips for Special Days (PDF)

What Should I Say? (PDF)

Below are books that the CJ Foundation recommends and that parents have found helpful:


Highly Recommended 
SIDS and Infant Death Survival Guide: Information and Comfort for Grieving Family and Friends and Professionals Who Seek to Help Them. Fourth Edition
Horchler JN, Rice R.

This book, written by and for Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) and Infant Death survivors, addresses the issues facing family members, friends and helping professionals who must deal with the death of an infant. This book includes information about SIDS and other Infant Death, risk factors, possible causes and research. It addresses feelings of grief from the point of view of mothers, fathers, siblings, grandparents and childcare providers. Included are writings, personal accounts, and poems written by those who have had experienced the death of a baby. Other topics covered include guilt, anger, dreams, premonitions, peer and professional support, emergency response, planning funerals, surviving anniversaries and holidays, having subsequent children, and learning to live again.

Now available in both English and Spanish.

Please choose English or Spanish:

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart
Davis D. 
Fulcrum Publishing; Revised & enlarged edition (1996)
Full Description


The heartache of miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death affects thousands of U.S. families every year. Empty Cradle, Broken Heart offers reassurance to parents who struggle with anger, guilt, and despair after such tragedy. Deborah Davis encourages grieving and makes suggestions for coping. The book includes information on issues such as the death of one or more babies from a multiple birth, pregnancy interruption, and the questioning of aggressive medical intervention. There is also a special chapter for fathers as well as a chapter on "protective parenting" to help anxious parents enjoy their precious living children. Doctors, nurses, relatives, friends, and other support persons can gain special insight. Most importantly, parents facing the death of a baby will find necessary support in this gentle guide. If reading this book moves you to cry, try to accept this reaction. Your tears merge with those of other grieving parents. You are not alone!

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not_just_another_day_50x78.jpg Not Just Another Day: Families, Grief and Special Days.

Throckmorton ML.
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2003. 16 p.
Full Description



The special days in the year are often the most difficult ones for bereaved families. This booklet provides suggestions to help families face birthdays, anniversaries, Hanukkah, and Christmas without a loved one. Although younger children tend to be comforted by family traditions, older children and adults may want to make a break with tradition on the holidays after a loved one has died. Families should feel free to start new traditions if they choose, or to combine some of the old with the new. Children may be especially anxious about approaching holidays. It is helpful for parents to know how children cope with grief and how these feelings may intensify around special days. The booklet suggests different ways in which parents can support their children as special days draw near, and stresses that both parents and children need to take extra good care of themselves during these times because grief often produces strong emotional and physical reactions. Ways in which families can keep healthy during grief-filled days are as follows: do relaxation exercises, eat healthful foods, exercise vigorously on a regular basis, and maintain household routines. The booklet includes descriptions of childrens' grief patterns at ages 0 to 2, 3 to 5, 5 to 9, 9 to 12, and 12 to 18. Includes helpful resources.

Available from: 
Centering Corporation 
PO Box 4600 
Omaha, NE 68104 
(402) 553-1200 
(402) 553-0507 (Fax) (E-mail)

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flying-hugs-and-kisses.jpg Flying Hugs and Kisses

Sample J.
Stillwater, OK: Newforums Press. 2010. 40 p.
Full Description


Flying Hugs and Kisses is a great resource for families with children who have lost a baby to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). The book is about five children who creatively take on roles of support toward each other while showing their individual feelings about the death of their baby brother to SIDS.

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Creating a New Normal...After the Death of a Child
Fox S.
Bloomington, IN: iUniverse. 2010. 308 p.
Full Description


Creating a New Normal...After the Death of a Child will help the newly bereaved as well as the seasoned griever fi nd their way through the darkness and into the light again to a life full of happiness and new meaning.

  • Learn a variety of coping and informational skills to help any bereaved parent as they move through the grief process.
  • Read up to 80 articles dealing with topics such as anger, journaling, taking care of yourself, making a marriage work, childless issues, preserving a child's memory, grief triggers, confronting negative statements, workplace grief, signs from our children, the importance of rituals and many more.
  • Identify how to get through the various holidays.
  • Read 10 inspirational stories that let you see how others cope.
  • Go through grief book descriptions and purchase information.
  • Delve into the abundant resource section listing many general and specific support groups, web sites and chat rooms

Learning to rebuild your life with purpose is what all bereaved parents strive to attain. Using the ideas from those who have been there and readjusting them to fit your own situation can give you the practical and emotional support needed.

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If you would like to recommend reading material for this list, please contact us.

For other grief resources, visit The Centering Corporation, a non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved.

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