You Will Always Be A Mother

Once again an annual holiday is upon us.  Advertisements for the event, promotions, cards, flowers, gifts... the list goes on and on.  Mother's Day in particular is most difficult for those of us who have lost a child.  It is hard to be joyful and celebrate.  Whether you have other children to help you along or you have lost your only child, whether your loss was recent or many years ago, you are still empty and sad.  As with all holidays this is the time that grief hits us hardest.

It's important to remember there are things you can do to minimize these sad and isolating feelings.  On Mother's Day, try to do what's best for you, and not what everyone wants you to do.  Let your family know in advance your needs for that particular day.  If you can, get involved and busy with something you enjoy, and it will make the day go faster.  Try writing a poem or letter to your child.  Through it all, remember that you will always be a mother.

"A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity;  when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us; and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and causes peace to return to our hearts." - Washington Irving

Sincerely,

The CJ Foundation for SIDS